Finding Your Identity in Love

Who are You?

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Do you know who you are, your authentic identity? That might seem like an odd question, but many people today have no idea of their true identity. Because of technology, today’s culture is unlike any before and the pressure is on to be someone we are not. If we look to social media, we quickly can determine that all posted is not quite the truth and sometimes not even close. Yet, we long for the authenticity and the true identity of others and ourselves. To find our true identity we might think we need to search high and low but in actuality, it is within us. As each of us has the love of Christ freely available. So, the question becomes whether we look within ourselves allowing His love to determine who we are, or will we search outside of us asking the world to define our identity.

Your Identity in Christ

In one of Charles Shultz’s Peanuts cartoon strips, he conveys through Charlie Brown the need we have to be loved and through Lucy the inability of the world to define that love. The two characters are leaning over a fence speaking to one another and Charlie Brown says, “All it would take to make me happy is to have someone say they like me.” Lucy responds, “Are you sure?” “Of course, I am,” Charlie Brown says. Lucy again responds, “You mean you’d be happy if someone merely said he or she likes you? Do you mean to tell me that someone has it within his or her power to make you happy merely by doing such a simple thing?”

Charlie Browns excitedly says, “Yes! That’s exactly what I mean!” Lucy says, Well, I don’t think that’s asking too much. I really don’t. But are you sure now? All you want is to have someone say, ‘I like you, Charlie Brown,’ and then you’ll be happy? Charlie Brown replies, “And then I’ll be happy!” Lucy however just walks away saying, “I can’t do it!” Thankfully, what Lucy is unable to do, God does. What Charlie Brown needs is to know is that his identity is through Christ. For it is only through Christ that our loneliness and aloneness are relieved. God loves us and is telling us today that “He loves us!” For God so loved all the world, that He gave His only Son.

For God loved the world so much that He gave His one and only Son so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.

John 3:16 (NLT)

God’s Love is Your Identity

If we want to know our true identity, we need to look no further than Christ. For God’s love is constantly reaching out and drawing us to Him. He set the pattern of true love for all love relationships by showing us that when we love someone dearly, we are willing to give freely and self-sacrifice. God gave the highest price He could pay with the life of His Son. Jesus accepted our punishment, paid the price for our sins, and then offers us new life that He sacrificed himself for.

When we choose to find our identity in Christ and make choices to live our life based on eternity and not the earth, we learn who we are. This life on earth is just an introduction to eternity and when we choose to receive a new life through Christ by faith, we begin to evaluate all that happens from an eternal perspective. This is more than just believing that Jesus is God. It is putting our trust fully in Him along with our confidence knowing that only He alone can save us.

If we want to know who our real identity is then we must put Christ in charge of our current plans and our eternal destiny. It is in this we realize that believing is both trusting His words as being reliable and then relying on Him for the power to change what we need to change. When we trust Christ and allow His promise of everlasting life to be ours through our belief, we learn our real identity.

Defining You

We are who we are because of who God is. Our identity is in God and this should create a feeling of both wonder and awe. When we align our identity with God, we realize that He doesn’t want to leave us where we are but instead, He is constantly transforming us. It is through His great love that we are reminded that God is ready to guide us, claim us, and love us eternally. And it is in this that we can openly share the Good News of God’s love and our identity in Him with others. The lesson of Charlie Brown is that people cannot provide us with our identity because they cannot love us unconditionally as Christ does. If we want to know who we are, we must look to Christ. For we will only find ourselves through Him.

Won’t you seek to find your identity in Christ’s love and not the fickle love of the world? Root your convictions in both His Words and actions for you. Be motivated to share your findings of identity in the love of Christ with others. And lastly, seek the comfort of knowing that your identity in Christ is full of love that carries forth not only on earth but through eternity.

Love in Christ,



Spiritual identity means we are not what we do or what people say about us. And we are not what we have. We are the beloved daughters and sons of God.

Henri Nouwen

Extra Study

Romans 5:8; 8:32, 1 John 4:9-10; 5:13

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